The kids are the thing ... Please
take the time to meet my children. Pictures are in the gallery
above.
In 2002, my wife Mary and I
made a big decision -- to become foster parents for the State of Connecticut. Never
having had children of our own, we were terrified yet excited about the prospect
of caring for babies and children who needed a safe, loving home for a short
while or long-term.
Our first placement was Robbie, 16
months old, just walking, and a wonder to behold. The first pictures in the
gallery above are Robbie when he first came to us in August 2002. He was
supposed to have been with us for only three weeks while they selected his new
adoptive family. Well... time passed, biological family members decided they
wanted him, then the courts decided against that, etc. Meanwhile, we were
falling more and more in love with this wonderful little boy. When Robbie
finally became available for adoption, we asked to be among those considered by
DCF as prospective adoptive parents for Robbie.
Our second placement was a newborn,
who was with us for just 23 hours in May 2003 before his grandmother took him
home to raise with his siblings. He only needed us for that one
night.
Our third placement was Allie, 3
days old, also a wonder to behold. There are a few pictures of Allie in the
gallery; more will be added. We got Allie in June 2003, and she immediately
stole our hearts. It was apparent early on that adoption was in Allie's future
. . . and perhaps in ours as well? But, of course, the wheels turn slowly...
At long last, on April 14th, 2005 we
adopted Robbie and Allie in a small ceremony in Litchfield, Connecticut, attended by family, friends, and
DCF workers. Although Allie and Robbie are not biologically related, they are
truly brother and sister. He adores her and she, even at 2+ years old, idolizes
him.
Being a parent is not easy, we've
discovered. Being a foster parent is even tougher because of all the "stuff"
you have to do - meetings, phone calls, visits from social workers, visits with
biological parents, and so forth. But I can tell you it is worth it. There are
kids who need help, need a place to be safe and loved while the system sorts out their
lives. We were lucky -- we ended up adopting our two beautiful foster
children.
Right now we're devoting all our
attention to Robbie and Allie, so we're no longer actively involved in the
foster care system. But once they're a little older, I wouldn't be surprised if
our children find themselves with foster brothers and sisters who will become a
part of our family for as long as they need us.
Please take the time to meet my
kids. Pictures above.